“Mr. Tha-naag-arjjen?”
he asked and threw a quizzical stare at me.
I wore a weak smile as I hopelessly tried to defend my name
(my father’s actually!). “It’s Thi-na-ga-ra-jan”,
I said, “Arvind Thinagarajan”, trying
my best to make it look effortless. “But you
can call me Arvind! I’m sure that’s easy, right?”, I egged him to concede. I
took a quick look at his name badge and nudged him to acknowledge “…right, Tony?”
But I figured he wasn’t going to give in that easily. He
took another long look at my credit card and prepared to murder my name again.
I wondered why he wouldn’t just scan the stuff I gave him, swipe my card and
get it over with. What was this uncalled effort for? Trying to put my point
across with a little subtlety I spoke, “You
know what…just call me Mr T. That’ll do!” and remembered to smile. That was
a discount he should gladly take I thought, but I thought wrong. That there was
no one behind me waiting in the queue meant he could experiment with my name
longer.
My name had become Tony’s exciting new challenge and I had
to do something fast to steer him off topic. “So what’s your last name, Tony?” I asked. “Banks”, he said and continued “See
how simple that is man? Tony Banks? Easy as pie!”. I smiled, and nodded
vigorously in agreement hoping he’d return my credit card and begin bagging the
grocery.
But he continued with a sheepish smile, “Why do you have such a complicated name Mr. T? Why do you make it so
hard for people like me?”
“Try pronouncing Vangiparapu
Venkata Sai Laxman!”, I thought to myself, “or how about Venkatanarasimha Rajuvaripetan??”. But surely it
needed more than that to convince my man Tony! So I tried something else, “What
does your name mean?”, I asked.
“I dunno man!”,
was the puzzled reply, “My mama didn’t
give my name no meaning! Why do you ask?”
I told him that my name had a meaning to it – ‘Arvind’ meant
‘a lotus that housed knowledge’ and ‘Thinagarajan’ meant ‘the sun or the
eternal light’. I told him about how I couldn’t think of an Indian name or an
Asian name, for that matter, that did not mean something purposeful.
“Maybe that’s why my
name is long, because it is supposed to mean something”, I said and
realized something else as I blurted out, more to myself than to Tony, “May be my name has a meaning to remind me something
important, that I got to add some meaning to life as well. What do I mean to
the people around me? What do I want to be remembered for when I’m done adding
meaning to my life, when I am no more?”
I looked into Tony’s eyes and knew that for a second he wanted
his name to mean something as well. He smiled and said something I would never
forget ever, “Well I dunno if I can do
anything about what my name means but I sure as hell can do a lot about what I
mean to the world around man!”
“Well said, Tony!” I
said raising my hand for a high-five, over-joyed, and realized that the
conversation we just had meant something to each other. Just the way it is
supposed to. Everything around has some meaning or the other, in my opinion.
Tony is now my friend. I still haven't tried to find out if his name means something. I'm sure it does but I don't care because I know that he does. Like I said, he is a friend! And I know that I mean something to him as well. He now calls me by my name.